An American songwriter, Clarissa Zoe Arokodare, has disclosed that she hired a private investigator to conduct a background check on her Nigerian husband before travelling to Lagos to meet him in person for the first time.
Clarissa made the revelation in a recent interview, where she shared details of how their relationship began, her initial fears, and how those concerns were eventually laid to rest.
According to her, she met her husband through the social media platform TikTok. Their connection, however, was not the usual online encounter, as she was introduced to him by the late wife’s brother.
“I didn’t meet my husband in a conventional way. I met him through TikTok. I first connected with his late wife’s brother, who later introduced us. His wife had passed away, and the fact that her own brother introduced him to me speaks volumes about the kind of person he is,” she said.
Clarissa explained that she was not actively seeking a relationship at the time they met, having reached a point where she felt emotionally done with romance. However, her exposure to Yoruba culture through a previous acquaintance had already sparked her interest in Nigeria.
“Before meeting him, I had met a Nigerian man in New York who exposed me to Yoruba culture, and it was something I deeply admired. When I eventually met my husband, it wasn’t romance that drew me in initially, but the way he valued family and cared for his children,” she added.
Despite the growing connection, Clarissa admitted she initially feared the possibility of falling victim to an online romance scam. To ease her concerns, she hired a private investigator based in Lagos to verify her husband’s claims and background.
“Yes, I had those fears at first. Before coming to Nigeria, I hired a private investigator in Lagos to verify everything he told me, and the report confirmed that everything checked out,” she revealed.
She further praised her husband’s honesty, noting that he never attempted to portray himself as something he was not.
“He showed me exactly where he lived, even when he wasn’t proud of it. He told me plainly, ‘This is me. Take me as I am.’ He never asked me for money. In fact, when I tried to help during a difficult time, he refused, saying it was too early in the relationship. That integrity made me respect him even more,” she said.
Clarissa also spoke about the initial reservations her family had about the relationship, largely due to a relative’s past negative experience with a Nigerian man. However, she said her husband’s consistency and honesty eventually won them over.
“My family was cautious at first, but over time, my husband proved them wrong. He never pretended to be wealthy or lived a fake life. Today, my family has nothing negative to say about him,” she stated.
She revealed that they began communicating in May 2024, and by October of the same year, she travelled to Nigeria for the first time, intending to stay for just one week. The visit, however, lasted six weeks.
“Our relationship felt different from what I was used to in America. It was natural, sincere and deeply connected from the beginning,” she said.
According to Clarissa, her husband proposed in November 2024 at a hotel in Ikeja, Lagos, after six weeks of spending time together. The couple eventually tied the knot in April 2025.
“The bond we share is rooted in healing, respect and intentional love. He has shown me a kind of love that helped heal wounds from my past,” she concluded.
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