Nigerians
have faulted the claim by a Deltan that he engages in 4 rounds of s*x
every night as he shuttles between two of his wives.
Omamuzo Utomajiri and his two wives
The claim by a Nigerian man, Omamuzo Utomajiri who married two wives on same day that he makes love to his two wives four times every night has attracted divergent comments from Nigerians including a Psychiatrist and doctors.
Chijioke Iremeka of the New Telegraph has organized an extensive research into the validity of the claims by the man.
Many Nigerians are of the opinion that it’s not possible for the
man who married two wives same day to make love to his wives every
night, going two rounds each. They argue that such is possible only if
the man has a very high libido. They added that a man who goes through
the normal stress in Nigeria, may not be able to have s*x every night.
Some of the men and women interviewed by Sunday Telegraph noted that
it’s impossible to achieve.
A female doctor and a surgeon among them however, had a contrary opinion, when she said: “It’s one hundred per cent possible going by my experiences as a relationship counselor.”
Sola Ibrahim, a Laboratory Scientist, is one of the young Nigerians
who spoke with Sunday Telegraph on the issue. He stressed that such
number of rounds in s*x may be impossible to achieve.
He noted that it’s not possible for the newly wedded man to have
sexual intercourse with his two wives twice each every night. Where
would he get such strength from? He stated that it takes complete one
month for a sexually active man to recover what is lost in terms of
nutrients in just one sexual intercourse.
If actually, this man is doing what he just told the public, he
will soon fall sick. Johnson Effekodo, a Lagos-based teacher has a
contrary view. He said he had tried to go on such escapades but couldn’t
achieve it.
“While in school, young female schoolmates openly bragged with boys and dared to beat them in s*xual marathon competition.
"When the session gets underway, the boys tried all they could
to win the contest, but in most cases, the girls emerged winners. As
school boys and girls, we did a lot of things that should not be allowed
to happen again among the young generation.
“For this man that said he sleeps with his wives four times in one night, some things are not just right.
"S*xually active or not, certain things can’t be done
naturally. Suffice me to say that it’s only with performance enhancing
drugs that one may attempt this, but what this means is that, such
s*xual activities are dependent on drugs. How long can this continue?
“As an undergraduate who was sexually active, I once tried to
go three straight rounds with my girlfriend then. I did the first and
the second rounds successfully but while starting the third round, I
discovered that my joystick went down of its own without proper
ejaculation, because my body was over-driven.”
He added: “At a point, I felt that something was passing
through my urethra and no single semen dropped. The question here is how
quick could this lost nutrients and semen be replenished and stored
back, ready to be discharged again? If we are able to answer this
question, then it becomes clearer whether the man with the two wives is
telling the truth or not.”
Musa Ishakwu, a Lagos trader, who believes in the power of sex
enhancing drugs, said people use these drugs to drive their s*xual urge
beyond the unimaginable.
“Personally, I have never experienced such level of sexual
marathon before. Going four rounds every night with two women is a big
task. When you go three rounds, you will gasp for breath, let alone four
rounds, not just once a month but every day, no way.
If we are talking about four rounds from 9 p.m till early
morning, it’s a different thing; it can happen but not all the time. The
resilience of the human body is not as strong as that. Sometimes, with
the real feelings, you may want to have a very tough s*x, but sometimes,
you just want to have one round and in a gentle way,” Blessing Okoh, who is in her early 30s, told a reporter.
Sylvester Ikpowonsa, a Research Fellow, told Sunday Telegraph: “What
the newly wedded man said about his two wives is a white lie. Is he
trying to tell us that his wives don’t experience the monthly menstrual
cycle? I believe he was quoted out of context. I guess he didn’t mean to
say that. May be it’s an exaggeration that people took to be reality.
It’s not possible.”
Dr. Abraham Morgan, an Associate Clinical Professor of urology, and
a S*x Therapist, stated that, after one good shot of a s*xual
intercourse on a good day, not everyone is ready for the second round.
Women may be primed to go for a second round few seconds after the first
big win, but for men, it’s not so easy.
He noted that no matter what the brain of a man is saying, his body just won’t comply. He said: “Men
actually have an in-built recovery period after sex. It’s called the
male refractory period (MRP), and it’s the time after ejaculation –
lasting from a few minutes to a few days – when a man is unable to get
an erection again. While women don’t have an equivalent allowing for the
possibility of multiple orgasms. Every man experiences some kind of
post-ejaculation recovery period. Men are wired differently.
“A young man may be able to have five or more erections and
orgasms in a day with a new partner, whereas another young man in the
same circumstances may not have the urge or ability to have more than
one. It really depends on a handful of factors. “The biggest is age.
Teenage boys can have a refractory period of a few minutes, a
30-year-old man is typically unable to have a second orgasm for half an
hour or more, and for several others who are 50 years and above, one
orgasm per day may be all they can achieve,” says the Professor of Urology
He noted that other factors that come into play are the levels of
desire and sensitivity. How turned on you are, the quality and emotional
state of the relationship. Whether you have been drinking, circumcised
and what medications you are using. How comfortable you are in your
environment is also very important.
“There are pretty a lot of things that would affect your
ability to get it up to start with, but even more so because you are
fighting against your body’s natural inclinations to recharge,” he added. Adebowale Julius, a minister of God said: “We were taught that having s*x on a regular basis is part of a healthy and normal adult life.
But when s*x gets in the way of your day-to-day activities, it
might be time to seek professional help from a doctor or therapist and
even from a psychiatrist. Human appetite for sex grows and shrinks, and
successful couples need to manage these ups and downs.
I don’t know how people can go without se*x for so long! No
matter how tired I get or how late it may be, I will always find time to
have a good sexual intercourse. Once or twice every night has been the
norm for me up until a few months ago. Now, it’s probably three times a
week.” But an Ogbomosho-based Medical Psychiatrist, Dr. Yemi Ogun,
said on the matter of s*x, it’s not a matter of seeing a psychiatric as
there is no impairment on the functioning.
He said the new groom who sleeps with his two newly wedded wives
four times every night doesn’t mean there is the need to see a
psychiatric. “When there is impairment in a function, coupled with other
symptoms, we begin to make a psychiatric diagnosis.
This man said he has sexual intercourse with his two wives four
times every night and he has not told us that he falls sick every day
after doing it, and none of his two wives have complained, then it means
his body could carry it and there is nothing psychiatric about that.
“The issue for me has been taken out of contest. If there is a high
libido, there will be other psychiatric symptoms before you can make a
diagnosis.
High libido on its own does not amount psychiatric case. Yes, the
man in question might be a bit higher than normal; it’s an extreme case
of normal spectrum but he doesn’t have any psychiatric problem.” A female doctor and a Consultant Surgeon with Havanah Hospital Lagos, Dr. (Mrs.) Ngozi Okafor, said, “It is possible a man have multiple s*xual intercourse with women, even more than four times.
Naturally, there are people with very high libido and there are
also drugs and natural foods, like almond and other nuts that can
improve sexual drives. “Locally, this can be achieved. I have treated a
patient before who had wounds in her private part. She sustained bruises
in her private part because her husband was a very sexually active man.
Her husband enjoys regular s*x, while the wife is always in pains.
“After everything, we invited the husband and after some discussions, we
gave him some drugs that would reduce his libido, which he didn’t know
about. So, it’s possible. We call people in this category sexually
active. They cannot stay without sex in a day. “There is another 28 years old man that sleeps with two girls every night. He doesn’t go to bed without two ladies by sides.
This man said he doesn’t like pre-intimacy, so he goes in without
pre-intimacy. But one more thing, these people may be having a round of
about 15 minutes or less but will still come up again even up to 10
times. People have different body metabolism. I know of another young
woman who I met in the hospital. While she ovulates, she can go the
extra miles.
She said that s*x means everything to her and she values it so
much. This set of people needs counseling and God’s intervention in
their case. We see a lot every day and that is why I said it is possible
for the new bridegroom to have s*x with his wives four times before day
break.
“While having s*x, the man in each round will ejaculate. The
first and second might be full but third one will be a drop. But I can
say here that in each of the four rounds, something will definitely come
out, but an insignificant drop.”
On the medical consequences of such act of going four rounds every night, Dr. Okafor said: “Medically,
it’s not good because human being who are extra active s*xually while
aging would develop waist pains and others health problems because extra
energy is burnt while young. Human bodies are not the same and their
metabolism differs.”
On the secret of lasting longer in bed, a Psychologist, Samuel
Orji, said those having sex should get their minds off the action, this
helps to stay longer.
Because when you put your mind in it, you will feel every thrusting
movement, which gets to the brain, thus releasing certain moaning
sounds as those involved are lost in the act. “When you are feeling
it, it sends some motor neurons to the brain this would release some
hormones to the relevant gland which releases the semen.
At this point, ejaculation is knocking at the door. But when your mind is off it, you feel it gently while the action lasts. “Also,
there are times you need to dig deeper and harder, but when you feel
your semen is about come down, you need to pause a while, but keep your
hands and mouth busy because your partner is on fire at that point, when
she will be saying ‘don’t stop, don’t stop.’ Everything about s*x is
mind, so you can control its’ pace until it gets to the point you are
lost.”

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