“How Do You Force a Deadbeat Father to Be Responsible?” — Ada Igbo Breaks Silence

Popular Facebook influencer, Ada Igbo, has spoken candidly about the emotional and financial realities of raising her children alone, one year after leaving her marriage.

In a heartfelt account shared online, Ada revealed that January 4 marks exactly one year since she walked away from the marriage with her children — a decision she says was made out of necessity and protection, not convenience.

Since then, she says she has faced constant criticism from members of the public, many of whom insist she should not be caring for the children on her own.

“People keep saying their father should be providing. They ask why I didn’t leave the children with him, or why I don’t send them back to Nigeria,” she wrote.

Ada, however, made it clear that leaving her children with their father was never an option she considered safe or realistic.

“Yes, their father should be providing. I agree,” she stated. “That’s why I wrote him a letter requesting financial support. He read it. He ignored it. He said nothing. His family also said nothing. Till today, there has been silence.”

Questioning the practicality of the advice she often receives, the influencer asked what society truly expects from a mother when the other parent has chosen to be absent.

“Should I drop my children on the main road and go and live my life? Hand them over to someone who has chosen not to be present? Or return them to the same situation I left to protect them?” she asked.

She also pushed back against the narrative that single parenting is a deliberate choice.

“People talk like single parenting is something I woke up and chose for fun. As if I didn’t first try communication. As if responsibility can be forced on someone who has decided to remain silent,” she said.

Addressing critics directly, Ada posed a sincere question: how does one compel an unwilling parent to suddenly become involved in their children’s lives?

“From where I’m standing, I didn’t choose to do this alone. I was left with no other safe option,” she explained.

With Christmas just days away, Ada said she decided to speak out in the hope that her story would bring understanding and possibly support.

“Until someone gives me a realistic answer,” she concluded, “I will continue choosing my children over people’s opinions.”

Her revelation has since sparked widespread conversation online about absent parenting, single motherhood, and the heavy societal expectations placed on women raising children alone..